One of the most fun Jewish holiday traditions is the mitzvah of mishloach manot – preparing and delivering gifts of homemade goodies to friends and neighbors on Purim day. I'll never forget my days in Hebrew school when I hoped there would be a halvah or an extra hamentaschen in my bag when classmates traded with each other!
These days, I'm trying to be more health conscious. I'm trying not to have a Costco sized tray of hamentaschen (3-sided cookies) sitting in the kitchen, as they might not make it to the Purim baskets! So, I'm going to share with you how you can make your mishloach manot a little healthier this year!
We at the J wish all who celebrate a happy, festive, and healthy Purim!
When you think of the requirements for a front desk administrator, what comes to mind? The first thing some would say is a smiling face that greets you when you walk in. Others would think of a knowledgeable person who answers the phone with a friendly greeting, or someone who knows what's going on and where it's happening. When you think of Lisa Gladstone, one of the J’s front desk administrators, all of these things come to mind.
A native to our area, Lisa was born in Washington, D.C. and grew up here in Fairfax. She lived in New Jersey for the past 20 years and recently returned to Northern Virginia in July 2017. Lisa's husband was stationed in Afghanistan for the past year, and previously lived here for five years working at the Pentagon. While he was away, she stayed in New Jersey to raise their three children, Elayna, Josh, and Sarah. Elayna is 20 and goes to University of Mary Washington, and Sarah and Josh are twins who attend Northern Virginia Community College and University of Rhode Island, respectively. Lisa also has four cats, who she also refers to as "her babies"! In her free time, she loves to travel, go shopping, go dancing, and eat out.
The JCC was a natural fit for Lisa. In her current role, she answers the phone, responds to inquiries, processes registrations, and greets people as they enter the J. She used to work at the Katz JCC in New Jersey for 10 years as a Membership Associate. There she performed similar tasks, as well as membership-related duties. Lisa hopes to be the best she can be in her position, and continues to learn everyone's names!
In Lisa's opinion, someone would want to join the J because of all we have to offer in fitness, cultural arts, adult education, early childhood, before and after school care, camp, and so much more. Lisa is a second generation J member, as her dad is also a J member and loves to play bridge.
Lisa loves engaging with members on a daily basis, as she is a people person and it's her favorite part of her job! Be sure to stop by on your way in and say hello to Lisa!
Do you know someone who is blind or deaf, or who has an autism spectrum disorder or a physical disability? Most of us know and love a differently-abled person, and this is the month to celebrate them and grow awareness!
For those of you who didn't know, this month is known as Jewish Disability Awareness and Inclusion Month (JDAIM), and what makes this year special is that it's JDAIM's 10th Anniversary! The J is proud to join together with other Jewish organizations and communities from around the area and all over the world in this unified effort to raise awareness and champion the civil rights of people with disabilities.
Here are some things you can do for JDAIM:
At the J, we are committed to helping those with special needs through activities designed to develop physical and social skills especially for them. The program features small participant-staff ratios and offerings such as adapted aquatics, social groups, family events, and recreational social skills classes. As a result of the increased demand and support by the community, we are excited to grow the program this year. Learn more about special needs at the J, our special needs camps, and about our upcoming Reelabilities Film Festival next month!
Every day when I take my kids to school, I see my 85-year old neighbor, Ruth, taking a brisk stride around the neighborhood. For 85, she is healthy and vibrant. I aspire to be like Ruth one day!
Right now, I am lazy, and don't work out nearly enough. But, my mind can be swayed, and after reading this research and thinking of Ruth, it likely will be. Here's what you can expect when you start walking for just 30 minutes every day, most days of the week.
1. Your mood will improve.
Research shows that regular walking actually modifies your nervous system so much that you'll experience a decrease in anger and hostility. In addition, walking outdoors exposes you to natural sunlight, which can help stave off Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)—making it a potential antidote for the winter blues. Don't want to deal with the elements? Come to the J and hop on one of our smooth, state-of-the-art treadmills!
2. Your creative juices will start flowing.
Whether you're feeling stuck at work or you've been searching for a solution to a tricky problem, research shows it's a good idea to get moving! In fact, going for a walk can spark creativity!
3. Your jeans will fit a little looser.
As you continue to walk, you may notice your pants begin to fit more loosely around your midsection, even if the number on the scale isn't moving much. That's because regular walking can help improve your body's response to insulin, which can help reduce belly fat.
4. You'll reduce your risk of chronic disease.
The physical benefits of walking are well documented. In fact, the American Diabetes Association says walking lowers your blood sugar levels and your overall risk for diabetes. Researchers found that regular walking lowered blood pressure by as much as 11 points and may reduce the risk of stroke by 20% to 40%. A study published in the New England Journal of Medicine, found that those who walked 30 or more minutes a day on 5 or more days per week) had a 30% lower risk of cardiovascular disease, compared with those who did not walk regularly.
5. You'll keep your legs looking great.
It is so not fair, but as we age, our risk of unsightly varicose veins increases. However, walking is a proven way to prevent them from developing, says Luis Navarro, MD, founder, and director of The Vein Treatment Center in New York City. If you already suffer from varicose veins, daily walking can help ease related swelling and restlessness in your legs. Also, if you are genetically predisposed to have varicose and/or spider veins, walking daily can help delay the onset.
6. Your other goals will start to seem more reachable.
When you have a routine in place, such as walking every day, you are more likely to continue with the activity and take on new healthy behaviors. Walking regularly can also help you to accomplish other goals you set your mind to, making them seem more attainable!
Are you also convinced about walking? Come on down to the J and check out our treadmills. Turn on your favorite music, and 30 minutes should fly by! Best wishes to you on a new healthier lifestyle!
Looking for the right summer camp experience for your child? Selecting the right Jewish camp may seem overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be. In part 1 of this blog, we discussed whether day or overnight is the best fit, whether your child is looking for a more relaxed or active camp, and whether he or she would prefer a traditional or specialty camp.
In part 2, we will look at questions you should ask when it comes to staff, safety/security, transportation, and more. You can use these questions to narrow the options and determine which camp experience would be the best fit for your child.
High-quality staff are critical to the success of any camp. In addition to serving as positive role models, camp counselors may help your child with anything from tying a shoelace to sorting out a social situation to reacting to an injury. Great staff members love kids and have the skills necessary to give your child a safe summer to remember. Here are some questions you can ask:
Safety and Security
Use these and the questions from part 1 during your visits to the camps you are considering. Hopefully, you will find the best summer camp that will meet the unique needs of your family.
Planning for summer camp? Be sure to check out jCamps here to learn more about all of the camp offerings at the J and to register.
It’s freezing outside and for all we know, we may have another snow day this week. Isn’t it too early to think about summer camp? The answer is no, not really—not if you’re a planner like me. In fact, registration for J camps is open now.
Day or overnight? Relaxed or active? Specialty or traditional? With so many options available, selecting the Jewish camp that’s right for your child may seem overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be. You can use these questions to narrow the options and determine which Jewish camp experience is right for your child.
Day or overnight?
Both day camp and overnight camp experiences can facilitate lifelong Jewish friendships, increased self-confidence, and a connection to the Jewish community. So how do you pick the format that is best for your child and your family?
1. How old is your child? Day camps typically begin serving kids as young as 4 or 5 while most overnight camps require campers to be at least 7 or 8 years old to attend.
2. Is your child comfortable spending the night at a friend’s house? Does being away from home excite and enrich your child or does it cause anxiety and tension?
3. What is your budget? The cost of day camp is typically lower than the cost of overnight camp. However, many day and overnight camps offer scholarships. Reach out to camps to find out about financial aid and other discounts.
Is the camp’s program/structure a good fit for my child?
Ok, so now that you’ve determined day or overnight, you can just pick the camp your friend recommends, right? Actually, there are several other factors to consider.
1. Does your child need structure or does he/she thrive on freedom, flexibility, and choice? Understand a typical day at the camp.
2. Is your child active or does he/she prefer more relaxed activities? Find out the activities the camp offers.
3. Does your child have special physical, intellectual, or emotional needs? Make sure the camp is able to provide the attention your child needs to enjoy and thrive in the program.
4. Does your child like to do several different activities during the day or prefer to focus on one? Traditional camps embrace variety while specialty camps focus on a specific activity or theme. Some traditional camps include an element of choice that allows campers to select activities that interest them.
How does the camp approach Jewish programming?
Just as individual synagogues and day schools embrace different approaches to Judaism, you’ll find that each Jewish camp has its own unique way of delivering Jewish content.
1. Is the program religious (involving prayer, Torah study) or culturally Jewish (exposing campers to Jewish cooking, art, dance, etc.)?
2. Is Jewish content integrated throughout everyday camp life or do campers experience Judaism only at specific times like Shabbat?
We haven’t covered staff, safety/security, location, transportation, session length, reviews, enrollment size, or input from your child – all of which are also important factors in selecting a Jewish summer camp. But, we will certainly do so in part 2 of this post.
Planning for summer camp? Be sure to check out jCamps here to learn more about all of the camp offerings at the J and to register.
I have always loved Tu B'Shevat (Jewish New Year of the Trees), because it's like having earth day twice a year! Although Tu B'Shevat is a minor Jewish holiday (occurring January 30-31 this year), it provides a great opportunity to express joy and thankfulness for trees, harvests, and the natural world, and a perfect time to celebrate and teach children about the environment. Many Jewish people plant trees at home and in Israel, and eat delicious fruits and greens in celebration of Tu B'Shevat.
During this agricultural festival, Jews around the world consider it our obligation to care for the environment and our sacred responsibility to share the fruits of G-d’s earth with all. Here are some ways you can incorporate the environment into your Tu B'Shevat celebration:
However you celebrate, we wish you and your family a Happy Tu B'Shevat and an environmentally friendly day!
Do you celebrate the secular New Year? Most of us in the U.S. do in one way or another. When I was single or dating my husband, I used to get dolled up and go out on New Years Eve. Since we had kids, we usually spend our New Years at home celebrating with the family, barely staying up to see the festivities in Times Square. :)
So, we know how New Years Eve is celebrated in the U.S. But do they celebrate it in Israel, and if so, how? I did a little research, and found out that in Israel, the secular New Year is celebrated, and it's referred to as "Happy Sylvester!" Huh?
Let me explain. When immigrants from Western Europe first came to Israel, they wanted to celebrate the secular New Year as they had done in their home countries. Throughout Israel, especially in Tel Aviv, the last day of the year is “party night.” On December 31, Israelis celebrate along with the rest of the world but they don't shout “Happy New Year.” Israelis do something different to avoid confusion with the Jewish New Year, since the secular new year isn't particularly meaningful in the Jewish religion. As the year turns from one year to the next, Israel’s Jews will wish each other a “Happy Sylvester,” a New Year’s greeting that invokes, of all things, the name of a Catholic saint! But why Sylvester?
Historian Georges Duby speculates that Sylvester may have been Peter Sylvester, who was the bishop of Beauvais in 1431 when Joan of Arc was arrested in his city. Apparently Sylvester was the only cleric who did not believe that young Joan was acting under the influence of the devil. Although Sylvester’s colleagues were determined to bring Joan to trial and subsequently execute her, Sylvester spoke out against such harsh treatment.
On the morning of December 31st, Sylvester himself was arrested, thrown into jail and tortured there. Several minutes before midnight, the 82 year old Sylvester died, but not before saying his final words, “The year ends and so do I.” Bishop Sylvester, as one who died for his beliefs on the last night of the secular year, became the “Sylvester” of the Israeli greeting offered at the beginning of each secular year. So in his honor and memory, Happy Sylvester!
So next time you are in Israel for the Jewish New Year, be sure to say, "Happy Sylvester!" However, if you are there on the eve of the first day in the Hebrew month of Tishrei for Rosh Hashanah (Jewish New Year), you can greet friends and family with “Shanah Tovah,” a Hebrew phrase that means “a good year,” or “Happy New Year.” However you celebrate, hope you have a happy and healthy 2018!
My kids are off from school for break. And, the first thing they wanted to do was to come to the J and go for a swim in the heated pool! While I was at the J, I ran into one of my favorite co-workers, Petya Ivanova.
Petya has always fascinated me. Not only is she a reiki master, she is also very knowledgeable about holistic healing and essential oils. She explained to me how boar bristle brushes are great if you are experiencing hair loss, how frankincense can help tremendously with joint pain, and how castor oil works really well as a face mask. If you want to know about alternative healing, Petya is your resource! She is even teaching a series of wellness classes on the subject, which will be held every Friday next month. It will cover topics such as meditation, reiki group energy, essential oils, and more!
Petya was born in Bulgaria and came to the United States in 2004. She has been at the J since 2011. You may have seen her friendly face at the front desk in the past, teaching strength training 1 classes, and in wellness videos on our YouTube channel! Petya loves working at the J because she sees it as one big family. She thinks a major benefit of J membership is how there is something for all ages and interests, from 5 months to 95 years old, and from ping pong to adult learning classes. I completely agree!
Petya wishes everyone a happy holiday! If you see her at the J, be sure to say hello... I'm sure it will warm your day! If you are interested in holistic or alternative healing, be sure to take one of her classes and pick her brain!
Season's best to all of our readers!
Chanukah is a super fun holiday for plenty of reasons, including the latkes (potato pancakes) and sufganiyot (jelly donuts), playing dreidel with friends, and lighting the menorah for eight nights. Speaking of the menorah, if you're looking to jazz up your Chanukah a little more, we found eight fun and surprising menorahs that can help kick your festivities up a notch.
2. This emoji menorah will keep you and the kids happy for all eight nights! This menorah is available for sale at our Chanukah sale, going on now!
3. This donut menorah features a baker and his delicacies. YUM!
4. Are you a dog lover? This menorah features 9 different breeds of dog!
5. Ahoy mateys! If you love pirates, then this menorah is for you!
6. Want to light your menorah in outer space? Use your imagination, and check out this space-themed menorah!
7. Are you a soccer enthusiast? If so, check out this colorful soccer menorah!
8. The raceway Menorah is made to look like a real raceway!
Whether your menorah looks like a spaceship, is pretty basic, or is made by your child of noodles, we hope your family has a fun Chanukah celebration! Want to come see a giant menorah being lit.
On Sunday, Dec. 17, at 4pm, come to our Community Candle Lighting at Mosaic District. Come "chill" with us on the sixth night of Chanukah! Your family helps make our community celebration even brighter! Questions? Contact Kyla.Hartunian@jccnv.org.
I love celebrating Chanukah with my family. In fact, I have a countdown app in my phone that says it’s just 7 days away. My daughter checks it every day to see how much closer we are! In my family, we don’t give huge gifts. We typically give something under $10 each night, including gift cards that the children can accumulate and spend on a bigger item.
Gifts are nice to give and receive. But, Chanukah is more than gifts. It’s about traditions, as well. So, in addition to gifts, why not incorporate some traditions into your Chanukah celebration:
Whether or not you celebrate Chanukah, and no matter how you celebrate, we hope you have a very happy holiday season!
I love latkes. How could you not?---they are warm, crispy, shredded potato goodness! Each year, my mother-in-law hand-grates the potatoes, and fries up dozens of them. I enjoy dousing mine with both sour cream and apple sauce. On a sad note, this only happens one time each year, unless I make them myself (and when I do, they are typically frozen and from Trader Joes). On a happy note, Chanukah is almost here, which means it's almost latke time!
Ever wonder where latkes originated? According to my research, the first connection between Hanukkah and pancakes was made by a rabbi in Italy named Rabbi Kalonymus ben Kalonymus (c. 1286-1328). According to The Encyclopedia of Jewish Food by Gil Marks, the Rabbi included pancakes “in a list of dishes to serve at an idealized Purim feast, as well as a poem about Chanukah. After the Spanish expelled the Jews from Sicily in 1492, the exiles introduced their ricotta cheese pancakes, which were called cassola in Rome, to the Jews of northern Italy. Consequently, cheese pancakes, because they combined the two traditional types of foods–fried and dairy–became a natural Chanukah dish.”
Potato latkes are a more recent Ashkenazi invention that gained popularity in Eastern Europe during the mid 1800′s. A series of crop failures in Poland and the Ukraine led to mass planting of potatoes, which were easy and cheap to grow. But before potatoes came on the scene, the latke of choice was cheese. Who knew?
In addition to acting as a vehicle for religion-sponsored oil intake on Chanukah, latkes have become a canvas for a variety of toppings, most commonly applesauce or sour cream, or both (the way I like them!) Want to try some amazing latkes? Celebrate the miracle of oil as new Chanukah tradition takes hold right here in Northern Virginia. Latke Fest is a regional celebration of food and community. Visit our Participating Restaurants during their regular business hours between December 12-20 and try their version of the latke. Don't forget to vote online at jccnvarts.com (or at the J) for your favorite latke for a chance to win a $50 Visa Gift Card. Polls will open December 12. All posts tagged on Facebook (JCCofNOVA) and Instagram (@JCCNV)with #NVLatkeFest will be entered in a drawing for a $50 Visa Gift Card. Learn more about the event and participating restaurants here.
Thanksgiving is an American holiday. Nearly everyone celebrates it. I have fond memories of time spent with my family indulging in a glorious feast - turkey, sweet potatoes, pumpkin pie, cranberry sauce, kugel, and whatever else earned a place on the menu, and then taking a long tryptophan-induced nap afterwards. We all know that Thanksgiving is certainly American - but is it a Jewish holiday?
Setting aside the feasting and football, we discover that there is a way to bring our Judaism into our observance of Thanksgiving. Some use it as a means of teaching our children one of our most important values: thankfulness. The idea of giving thanks is a familiar theme in Jewish tradition. Judaism views every day as a day of thanksgiving; every day is a chance to say "thank you" to G-d for the many blessings we have.
Here are some things we can do with our children to teach them about thankfulness and the Jewish connection to the holiday at the Thanksgiving table:
- Talk about why we celebrate Thanksgiving. Connect your celebration to the original story of the fall harvest celebration that brought together struggling, starving Pilgrims and generous Native Americans.
- Discuss how Thanksgiving is similar to the Jewish holiday of Sukkah. The first Thanksgiving meal in 1621 is said to have been eaten outdoors, which would correspond to the Sukkot tradition of dining outside in the sukkah. Sukkot, like Thanksgiving, is a holiday of welcoming; the Pilgrims welcomed the Wampanoag Native Americans to the original Thanksgiving table just as Jews are encouraged to welcome friends and extended family to dine in the sukkah.
-Talk about family traditions and tell stories. If your celebration involves multiple generations or multiple families, talk about traditions, "the good old days," and your own childhood. Stories teach children about life and history.
-Be thankful. Focus on the things you are thankful for; ask everyone at the table to say what they are thankful for or make a list of what your family is thankful for. To take this gratitude lesson to the next level, you could perhaps even hang poster board on the wall and ask everyone to write things they are thankful for throughout the day.
Share & donate. Thanksgiving is a celebration of sharing and abundance. Develop a tradition of sharing with those who have less and involve children in contributing to a food shelter or other charities. This can help children to be thankful for what they have and learn the importance of helping others. This also embodies the Jewish tradition of tzedakah (or charitable giving.)
From our family at the J to yours, however you spend your day, we hope you have a safe, healthy and meaningful Thanksgiving with family, friends, and neighbors. We'll see you at the gym afterwards, to work off all the stuffing and pumpkin pie!
I tried everything to extend its life, but it was time to face the facts — nothing was going to bring our old red Taurus back to life. She was a good car while she lasted, but now it had been too long that she sat abandoned on the street in front of our house rusting away.
Our beloved car was too far gone and likely getting her running again just wouldn’t be worth the expense. We wouldn’t know until we had her towed to the mechanic – expense number 1 – and then waited for the diagnosis of how expensive the repair would be to get her up and running again (expenses number 2 for the estimate and 3 for the repair). We couldn’t just leave this vehicle in the street with no purpose and no one seemed interested in buying it, so my husband and I talked about the future of our car and what our options were. We love the J for the positive difference it makes in people’s lives, so it seemed natural that when we found out that we could donate our car, the J would be the perfect beneficiary.
What many people don’t realize is that in most cases, you can donate a running, or even non-running, car to charity – even if there’s little to no chance that your car will ever run again. Unless it has been stripped down to the chassis, there’s a very good chance that there will still be some value assigned to the car. And, because you’ve donated the car, you will see direct benefits as well! Not only will you rid yourself of the unwanted burden of an unusable car, but you’ll also set yourself up to receive a minimum tax deduction of $500 once it’s all said and done.
Once the J accepts your donation, the vehicle will be sold at auction, where even a car that won’t run can still have value. Buyers may be interested in purchasing the car so they can salvage parts such as doors, dashboards, or even gear knobs — and be sold as replacement parts. The J typically receives a check within two months and will then issue you an acknowledgement identifying how much the car was sold for, which may be used for tax purposes. Tax laws stipulate a donated vehicle receives minimum $500 tax-deduction – that means, if your car sells for more, you receive a deduction of the amount for which it sold; if it sells for less, you receive the minimum $500 deduction.
Thinking about donating your vehicle? Contact the J’s Development Associate, Michelle Pearlstein (email@example.com). We accept all vehicles, regardless of the condition, and you’ll have the peace of mind that comes with knowing that all of the money from the resale of your donated vehicle goes to support the J’s mission and programs. We make donating a vehicle as simple for you as possible. Just tell us about the car, who you are, and where it is located — we’ll handle the rest. Reach out to us today and find out how we can help!
Following a productive meeting at the J with my amazing co-workers in marketing, I came across a smiley face in the cultural arts office. She introduced herself as “Sharon” and I couldn’t help but notice the picture of the sweetest baby boy hanging over her desk. She was kind and pleasant to talk to, and I looked forward to learning more about her to write this article.
Sharon told me a little bit about herself. She hails from Sunnyvale, Ca, right in the heart of Silicon Valley. Seems like a perfect place for such a sunny, happy person!
Sharon attended college to be a stage manager at Southern Oregon University. Right after college, she moved to DC for an internship with Theater J. She met her husband, Jesse, while working at the J and ended up staying in the area. In 2016, she got her Masters in Management from George Mason University and gave birth to a baby boy! She now resides in Petworth, DC with Jesse, Baby Marty (Martin) and their cat, Ginny.
When asked what she loves most about working at the J, I wholeheartedly agree with her answer. She enjoys high fiving the babies as they come by for their walks! How can you not? And, her office is situated in the perfect place for this — adjacent to the lobby!
At the J, Sharon works with Sarah Berry, Cultural Art Director, to produce cultural programs. Together, they strive to bring the best in performing visual, literary, and cinematic arts programming to the J. Sharon hopes to use her background in performing arts to help bring new and exciting programming to the J.
Although she is very familiar with the Jewish community in other areas, Sharon is fairly new to the Northern Virginia Jewish community. She is happy to know that there is a vibrant and active community here that has welcomed her with open arms.
Be sure to say hi to Sharon next time you’re at the J!
October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. And, my goal this month and in general is to do what I can to stave off the terrible disease. I read recently that studies found a link between regular exercise and a lower risk of breast cancer. If this is true, Iâ€™m going to need to start exercising more often!
How exercising lowers breast cancer risk is not fully understood. Itâ€™s thought that physical activity regulates hormones including estrogen and insulin, which can fuel breast cancer growth. Regular exercise also helps women stay at a healthy weight, which also helps regulate hormones and helps keep the immune system healthier. So itâ€™s a win-win to get to the gym!
How much exercise do women need?
Unfortunately, there is not a magic number of hours that a woman can exercise to prevent cancer from occurring or to lower the risk. But we do know that some is better than none, and that more vigorous activity is more effective than less vigorous activity. The American Cancer Society recommends all adults engage in at least 150 minutes of moderate intensity or 75-minutes of vigorous intensity activity each week, preferably spread throughout the week.
So, what happens on days when you want to fit some exercise in but canâ€™t find the time to come to the J and exercise? Here are some ideas:
For people who haven't exercised in a while, it makes sense to start slowly and build up gradually. And clear any new activity with your doctor.
Hope to see you at the J in the weight room, on a treadmill, or at the new Bollywood Fit or SUP Yoga Class (which was an amazing workout- I did it last week!)
I've decided to become more physically active. In fact, today I am trying one of those free SUP Yoga classes at the J. I am making this change in my life not only because I'm overweight and enjoy more than an occasional donut. Research shows that exercising your body is also good for your brain, and I need all the help I can get, since most people on my father's side have or have had dementia.
These are some examples of physical activity that have been shown to help improve your brain health and keep your mind sharp:
Exercise can also boost your mood, help you maintain a healthy weight, and keep muscles strong. If you don't do so already, come on down to the J and take a class, hire a trainer, or simply go for a run, or a swim, or lift some weights in our gym!
Want to learn more about brain health, nutrition, technology, travel, and more for seniors? Be sure to attend the Northern Virginia Positive Aging and Wellness Fair presented by Innovation Health on Sunday, 10/22, at the Inova Center for Personalized Health Conference Center (formerly ExxonMobil, across from Inova Fairfax Hospital). The fair includes more than 30 interactive and informative workshops promoting active aging through healthy lifestyles that may help you live longer, more independently, and more positively. Bob Levey, former columnist for The Washington Post, is the keynote speaker. There will also be a trade show featuring more than 35 exhibitors, nonprofits, and government agencies offering one-on-one assistance and resources. Admission is $20 per ticket. The fair is geared for adults 50+. Visit positiveagingfair.com for more details!
Every morning, I hear the same thing from my kids: "I don't want to go to school!" They seem to think I will say, "That's fine, you can stay home," even though I won't. In reality, unless it's Rosh Hashanah or Yom Kippur that day, or they have 104 fever, they're going! Not sure what fun things they think I do while I'm working all day?
Dr. Rene Hackney, one of our awesome speakers from our upcoming Baby2Tot Fest, offers some great advice for parents of children whose kids complain about going to school every day, as follows:
Smooth, calm morning: If your kids lose it in the morning, try and stay calm. Be the rock.
Matter of fact empathy: When your child is upset, acknowledge the emotion, then continue with the routine. On a difficult morning this might sound like, "I know you are upset, you don’t want to go,” as you help put on their shoes.” “I hear you want to stay home. I like staying home with you too,” as you walk them in. You are recognizing emotions and moving forward.
Avoid starting with denial or reasoning: Denial would be, “You like school. This shouldn’t be so hard.” Reasoning is, “All of your friends are there, you’ll have fun at school.” Denial and reasoning are fuel for the argument.
Start Earlier: If it is truly difficult to get through the morning, you might also start 15 minutes earlier to give everyone a chance to relax.
Note any patterns: Most things are easier when you see them coming. Knowing the pattern can help you plan.
Speak with teacher: Whenever there’s a school related difficulty, good to check in with the teacher. The teacher may be able to point to something specific happening at school, or may let you know everything seems fine once child is there. Either way, it’s helpful information.
Speak with your child: Occasionally, ask them what’s going on in the mornings before school. Ask if there’s anything they are happy about, worried about, excited about, or scared about at school. One question here and there, in a relaxed tone ,at a calm time, may be helpful.
Address any known causes: If there are academic concerns, talk to the teacher, find new ways to practice the needed skills, and/or hire a tutor. If it’s a social concern, meet with the guidance counselor, coach your child on ways to manage, and/or follow up with the teacher. On either front, continue to monitor and follow up with interventions, as needed. Do what’s needed to support your child wherever they need it the most.
Again, these great tips are from Dr. Hackney, who will be leading one of six parenting workshops at our Baby2Tot Fest on 10/22. The event will also feature vendors, on-site demos, a play area, an ask-a-professional café, giveaways, and more. To learn more or to register for the event, click here. Hope to see you there!
Fall is my favorite season. I enjoy the crisp, colorful leaves, the hot apple cider, and just about everything made with pumpkin. The harvest festival of Sukkot (which begins tomorrow night) is another reason why I adore this season!
For those who may not know, let me tell you a little about the holiday, Sukkot. Many of you are likely aware that the main symbol of Sukkot is the sukkah, the decorated outdoor booth that provides families a wonderful opportunity to invite friends and neighbors to share a snack or come together for a meal. The Sukkah commemorates the temporary dwellings in which the Israelites lived during their desert journey to the Promised Land. Not only do we eat and gather with friends in the sukkah, some of us even sleep in it (weather permitting!) during the seven-day holiday.
What we eat on Sukkot
In the spirit of the holiday, we typically eat seasonal fruits and vegetables, along with several kinds of grains, as a reminder of the fall harvest. Another Sukkot culinary custom is to serve foods filled with rice or other grains. Kreplach, blintzes, cabbage, squash, and other vegetables are perfect examples.
For dessert, lemon-flavored treats always are welcome and refreshing, since lemons are in the same citrus family as the etrog, or citron, one of the four species used ritually during Sukkot. (The other three species are the palm, willow and myrtle.)
Hope you have a chance to build or visit a sukkah this year! We wish you and your family a fun and happy holiday!
I'll be honest with you. Yom Kippur is my least favorite Jewish holiday, because you can't eat! But, on the other hand, I understand why we fast: to slow down our biological rhythm during a day of meaningful self-searching and earnest communication with G-d. Plus, sometimes it's healthy to cleanse your body during a day of fasting!
Most people know that we fast on Yom Kippur. But, there are three customs that you may or may not know about: wearing white, wearing a tallit (religious shawl) for Kol Nidre, and avoiding leather. This is why we do these things:
Wearing white: Some say that we wear white on Yom Kippur to be like the angels. On this day, we yearn to be lighter, more clear, and transparent. Another interpretation is that we wear white on Yom Kippur because of the white garments in which we will be buried, making white a reminder of our mortality.
Avoiding leather: There is a custom on Yom Kippur of avoiding wearing anything made of leather, because leather requires the death of a living creature. For this reason, you will see some people wearing canvas shoes, or even rubber Crocs, instead of leather shoes.
Wearing tallit at night for Kol Nidre: Kol Nidre evening is one of the very few times in the Jewish year when a tallit is worn at night. Ordinarily a tallit is only worn when it is light out and we can see the fringes. One reason why we wear a tallit to Kol Nidre is that we sing the Thirteen Attributes. Another reason is that tallitot are frequently white, and when we wrap ourselves in white tallitot, we can see ourselves as being like the angels, garbed in white light (see "wearing white" above!)
If you are fasting on Yom Kippur, we hope you have a meaningful fast. May you and your loved ones be inscribed in the book of life!
Pomegranate iced tea, chocolate-covered pomegranates, pomegranate margaritas. . . Pomegranates are in a lot of the foods we eat and are delicious by themselves. But, why do we hear so much about pomegranates at Rosh Hashanah and what makes them special?
The pomegranate has been growing in the Mediterranean region for thousands of years, and has become a symbol of Judaism, Israel, and Rosh Hashanah. In fact, in Israel and in many American homes, the pomegranate is the centerpiece on the Rosh Hashanah table. But why?
The pomegranate (רימון, rimon) is written about in the Bible. It is one of the seven species identified with the land of Israel, and it is also mentioned as a symbol of royalty.
The seeds of the pomegranate are also unique and special. In fact, according to the Midrash, every pomegranate contains 613 seeds – the same as the number of mitzvot (commandments) in the Torah. So, eating a pomegranate can be a symbolic way of displaying the desire to fulfill the mitzvot.
Hope you enjoy the pomegranates, apples and honey, and round challah at your Rosh Hashanah dinner! We at the J wish you and your loved ones L'Shana Tovah (Happy New Year!)
Pictured: Author's son, Max, with his best friend, the late Flaubert (2004)
My best friend is one of the most amazing people I know. It is so remarkable when two people from completely different places, with completely different backgrounds, can be so alike. When I am sad, I talk to her, and she brightens my day. She knows what makes me unique, and she appreciates it, and I know she has my back no matter what. Honestly, I don’t know where I’d be without my best friend.
The amazing thing about best friendship is that it can start any time in your life. You can meet your “bestie” as a tot, by being in the same playgroup and growing up together. You can meet him or her as a teenager, when there are so many changes going on, or in college, when you have your first taste of independence. Or, you can encounter this person (or people. . . or pets. . . you can have more than one best friend!) when you are a little older, like I did.
In the Jewish context, friendship is more than a social connection. Friends offer each other help, loyalty, protection, support, unselfish love, and moral guidance. Judaism defines friendship as one of the primary relationships in life, a tie at times exceeding that which bonds blood relatives.
The benefits of friendship are appreciated and expressed in the bible, as follows: Ecclesiastes wrote, “Two are better than one because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow; but woe to him that is alone when he falls, for he has not another to help him up” (4:9-10).
Do you have a tot or a child who already has a best friend? Well, we have a perfect opportunity to share adorable pics of their friendship and for you to have a chance to win a $25 Target gift card when you attend the Baby2Tot Fest at the J on October 22. Have a little cutie who loves their buddy? Then join our #BabyBFFs contest! Rules below:
1. Must be following [the J's Instagram account] @jccnv
2. Post a pic of your kid & his or her BFF (pets included!) with the hashtags #B2TFest and #BabyBFFs (not case sensitive)
3. Post once, post twice, post as many times as you’d like! No limits to how many pics you can post. See your baby or tot featured on our page (if you don't want your pic reposted here, simply tell us in your caption/ comments).
4. Find out if you're the lucky winner at the Baby2Tot Fest on Sunday, October 22! Winner is selected at random. (Note: You must attend the Baby2Tot Fest, but need not be present when the winner is announced in the afternoon. To register for Baby2Tot Fest, click here (note: each person must be registered individually).
Best friends can be hard to find.
Give your best friend a hug, and let him or her know you love and appreciate them. Can’t wait to see your pics!
Pictured: Apple Nachos
Rosh Hashanah (Jewish New Year) is among my favorite holidays. And, I'll be honest with you, it's because I have a sweet tooth and I love the food that we eat, and the symbolism behind it! On Rosh Hashanah, we eat both sweet and rich foods, symbolizing happiness and prosperity, such as round challah bread (instead of the typical braided one) to celebrate continuity and the circle of life, and pomegranate seeds to represent an abundance of good deeds to come.
Of all the classic holiday foods associated with Rosh Hashanah, none are as universal as honey and apples, which remind us of the Garden of Eden and the anniversary of the creation of Adam and Eve.
Each year, kids love to dip their own apple wedges in a bowl of gooey honey. This year, it's time for the grown-ups to get a little more creative with apples and honey, as follows:
Pink Pearl Tart: A delicious and gorgeous way to enjoy apples and honey.
Apple Nachos: This recipe doesn't technically call for honey, but it should. So feel free to add it!
Apple and honey madeleines: These madeleines are delicious dipped in coffee or tea.
Grilled Apples with Cheese and Honey: Dessert meets the cheese plate when you drizzle grilled apples and flavorful cheese with honey and toasted pecans for a quick and healthy appetizer.
Fontina, Walnut, Apple and Honey Grilled Cheese: It's super easy to make and incredibly delicious. You could pair it with a salad to serve as a complete lunch but it was divine with a cup of coffee
Chicken and Apples in Honey Mustard Sauce: Simple and quick chicken breast with apples cooked in broth, with a honey mustard sauce.
Apple, Pear and Gin Cocktail: Raise a glass to the new year with this delicious cocktail!
Want to pick some apples just in time for Rosh Hashanah, that can be used to make some of these delicious recipes? Come to our Community Apple Picking on Sunday, September 17, from 1pm - 3pm at Stribling Orchard. Get ready for school and Rosh Hashanah with an afternoon of picking delicious apples to go with your honey! Bring a picnic and enjoy breathtaking views of the Blue Ridge Mountains while learning about the Jewish New Year. Enjoy PJ Library® stories and making fun apple crafts, then go out and pick apples at this 8th generation orchard. Do a mitzvah (good deed) and donate a portion of your picked apples to Food for Others, a local food pantry in Fairfax. Remember to bring a hat, sunscreen, and a snack. Please register by September 13. Program and entrance to orchard free. You pay for your own apples. Contact Jennifer.DeAngelis@jccnv.org for more details.
Shahana Lal is the newest addition to the marketing and development team at the J. The amazing part about her being part of the marketing team is that I get to work with her! I had the chance to interview her yesterday, and I learned a lot that I will share with you. When you make it to the J, be sure to say hello to Shahana! She is truly a friendly, smart, and creative person, with a fascinating background! Below are the answers to the interview questions that she provided:
Renee: Tell us a little bit about yourself (where you're from, your hobbies, your education, your hopes and dreams (jk :)
Shahana: Hi! I'm from Bethesda, but was born and grew up in India before moving to the US as a teen. I studied Sociology at the University of Maryland due to my passion for and interest in social justice and women's empowerment. In my free time, I love to sketch and draw illustrations, go on nature hikes, binge watch Game of Thrones and anything on Netflix, feed my caffeine addiction, and check off as many countries as I can from my travel bucket list!
Renee: What do you like most about working at the J?
Shahana: While it's tough to pick just one thing, one of the first things I noticed about the J is how it feels like one big family. There are so many people who go way back, sharing so many memories and friendships at the J, and everyone is so inclusive and welcoming. I love walking into the building and seeing groups of friends at all age levels-- preschool children giggling together, young campers sharing jokes over lunch, camp counselors high-fiving their campers, young parents picking their kids up after their fitness class, friends playing cards in the lobby and adult lounge. So I guess ONE of the things I like most is the people!
Renee: What do you do in your position at the J?
Shahana: As the Marketing and Development Coordinator, I support the J with its fundraising goals, highlight the J's vast range of programming and services that have something for everyone from infants to octogenarians, help articulate their importance to the community, support the Capital Campaign to improve the J experience for our members and guests, and give everyone a window into the J through our Instagram - don't forget to give us a follow @jccnv!
Renee: Why would someone want to be a member at the J?
Shahana: To be in a supportive and motivating environment where one feels encouraged to accomplish their fitness goals, have opportunities to strengthen one's mental wellness, expand one's cultural and artistic tastes, get educated by instructors who foster independence, find ways to serve the community, make lasting friendships, and most of all, have fun! Need I say more?
Renee: What have you learned so far in your position?
Shahana: A lot! I've taken many great notes from my wonderful bosses, but one of my biggest takeaways so far is how to work hard and have a lot of fun at the same time, which isn't so hard when you love what you do!
Renee: What do you aspire to do at the J?
Shahana: Help the J's vision for nurturing a sense of community by finding more ways to give back, educate, and respond to instances of injustice or inequality. As someone who's been passionate for social change for as long as I can remember, I seek out sources of inspiration and hope, and the J is definitely a place of inspiration! Since it first opened its doors, the J has been a symbol for progress and fostered a sense of culture, diversity and inclusion. I feel lucky to be a part of this community, and look forward to continuing this legacy with my colleagues and fellow members.
Thanks so much, Shahana! J And, as I responded back to her in a text, "You rock!"
P.S. As Shahana mentioned, she updates our Instagram regularly. To reiterate what she said, please give us a follow at @jccnv. She posts some fun and creative pics, contests, etc.
I'll be honest with you- I haven't ridden my bike in a long time. I have thought about it though, especially with my daughter enjoying her bike so much these days. Similar to me, most of us that don't ride bikes have found plenty of reasons NOT to go riding, so let's take on those fears one by one.
Fear #1: Biking requires too much gear.
Reality: The basic necessities for cycling are just you, a bike, and a helmet. While other gear is nice to have, it can come later. Just get on a bike and go.
Fear #2: It's costly to buy a bike and cycling gear.
Reality: Maybe, but it's far cheaper than buying and operating a car. Per a 2013 AAA study, a car costs an average of $9,122 per year to operate (based on 15,000 miles). Bikes, on the other hand, don't need gas and are free to park. They have fewer components and require less-expensive maintenance.
Fear #3: Only expensive bikes are any good.
Reality: While pricey bikes can be "nicer" to ride, almost any bike in good working condition can get you to where you want to go. It may take you longer or not have gears for up-hills, but you will get there.
Fear #4: Biking takes too much time.
Reality: It usually requires extra planning and riding time, but, depending on the distance and traffic, it might actually take less time to bike than it does to drive. Plus, you burn calories and can run errands while you ride.
Fear #5: Bicycling is too dangerous.
Reality: Most cyclists ride for many years without mishap. Acting like a driver, being predictable, wearing bright clothing, being aware of your surroundings, anticipating driver behavior, making eye contact with drivers, having hands ready on brakes, watching for car doors opening, following traffic rules and claiming your lane will help improve your safety.
Fear #6: Bike seats are uncomfortable.
Reality: Bikes usually come with a generic, unisex saddle. If yours feels uncomfortable, try upgrading to one with gel padding or one that's gender specific. Bike seats also come in different sizes and shapes, such as cutaway models.
Fear #7: I'm too out of shape to ride.
Reality: Riding your bike will help you get back into shape. In the beginning, don't be afraid to stop and walk, especially on a hill. The more you bike, the easier it will get. Of course, if you have a serious health condition, check with your doctor before riding.
As you can see, there are lots of great reasons to dust off your bike (or even ride for the very first time). In fact, if you want to try cycling, a good place to start are our cardio cycling classes at the J! See our group exercise class schedule for details on classes.
If you are an intermediate or advanced rider, please join us for Cycle Fest this year on September 24. Enjoy a Sunday morning ride in beautiful Warrenton, departing to and from Molon Lave Vineyards. Riders, friends, and family are invited to come and enjoy the day. This event benefits Semper K9, a local, veteran-run nonprofit that trains rescued and donated dogs to assist injured members of the U.S. Armed Forces. Semper K9 provides service dogs for psychiatric alert and mobility challenges free of charge to wounded service members. Learn more here. Hope to see you there!
Since 2006, we have been fortunate to host seven creative and passionate shlichim, who connected Israel to our community by spearheading programs, leading meaningful discussions, and engaging with local synagogues.
This year, we are thrilled to welcome Liat Lisha, who will continue the important work of our shlichim by working at the J, with area synagogues, Jewish agencies/organizations, and at other locations throughout Northern Virginia.
Here’s a brief bio so you can get to know her better:
Liat was born and raised in Ashdod, Israel to a family of Moroccan descent. Prior to becoming a shlicha, she worked in Tel Aviv, as a Web Fraud Content Analyst for IBM, and also worked for the non-profit SheCodes, a group that aims to bring gender equality to the Israeli hi-tech industry. Liat served as an Intelligence Analyst in the IDF for three years, and was the head of an intelligence team of 12 soldiers.
As a teen, Liat was chosen by the Israeli Ministry of Education to take part in a summer program called Seeds of Peace, where she brought together Israeli, Palestinian, American, Egyptian, and Jordanian teens to have an open dialogue about tolerance and acceptance. She continues to work with this group as a project manager.
Liat loves to be physically active, and enjoys meeting with people to discuss Israeli politics, social issues, tech, the Israeli economy, and fashion. In her free time, she enjoys cooking and trying new recipes, music, and basketball.
You can learn more about Liat and our JCCNV-JAFI Shiri Rahamim Shlichut Program here.
I don’t play a sport, and sadly I am far from being a teenager. But, if I did and if I was, I would certainly want to participate in the JCC Maccabi Games®! Last night (Sunday, August 6) at the Times Union Center in Albany, NY, hundreds of Jewish athletes, coaches, and fans from around the world gathered for the opening ceremonies of the 2017 JCC Maccabi Games® and Artsfest, an Olympic style sporting competition held for Jewish athletes that are between the age of 13 and 16.
This year, there are 21 delegations from around the world competing in sporting events ranging from basketball and hockey to swimming and golf. The athletes will be competing in venues around Albany, starting last night and ending on August 11.
Around 2,600 Jewish teens participate in the JCC Maccabi Games every summer, including our local athletes from the Northern Virginia Delegation, including 16 athletes, 3 coaches, and 1 delegation head (Allison Merims). Our delegation is specifically comprised of:
The JCC Maccabi ArtsFest® is also happening concurrently. Specialties include musical theater, acting/improv, vocal music, rock band, star reporters (Journalism/TV), visual arts, jazz ensemble/world music, and dance.
This year’s NoVA Delegation is the largest that NoVA has sent in many years, and we wish them lots of luck in their respective sports. We will continue to provide updates about the NoVA Delegation on our Facebook page! Please also check out the Maccabi games page on our website to learn more and see how you or your teenager can get involved in future games!
*denotes age of players on team
I love my husband, kids, pets, good friends, and my job at the J! Next week, I can express all this love during Tu B’Av, the ancient day of love, which starts Sunday night (8/6) and goes through Monday (8/7).
Did you know that, in ancient times, Tu B’Av started as a singles mixer, of sorts? According to the Talmud, Jewish women would go dancing in the vineyards and unmarried men would go to the fields to pick out a wife. The women would wear white dresses that they had borrowed, so that no one would be embarrassed if she didn’t own the proper garments.
Today, the day is celebrated in Israel, much like Valentine’s Day in the United States, with flowers, romantic dinner dates and evening soirées. It is considered to be a good date for a wedding. Lovers taking an evening stroll outside can enjoy nature’s mood lighting, since the holiday often falls on an evening with a full moon.
If you are in the U.S., whether Tu B’Av is a time for a romantic date, to hang out with friends, or catch up on cat videos, the holiday is a good excuse to connect with the world around you. Here are seven clever ways to celebrate the holiday.
However you spend Tu B’Av, we wish you lots of love and good times with the ones you love!
Photo: Joc Pederson, Credit: JTA
Anyone who knows me knows that I am a die-hard baseball fan. Thirteen years ago, when I heard the news that we were getting a baseball team, I nearly flipped out from happiness and excitement. Since then, I haven’t missed a Washington Nationals game (I’ve mostly watched them on tv, but have also seen some great games at Nats Park!)
I remember wondering if Ryan Zimmerman and Max Scherzer were members of the tribe. Turns out that they are not, but 11 other players and a manager are. Below is the list of some of the Jewish major leaguers. Click on the player’s name below for details about him and his stats:
Speaking of baseball, did you know that the J has a baseball team that is going to the JCC Maccabi Games® as part of the Northern Virginia delegation? At the Maccabi Games, for five days, teen athletes/artists participate in tournaments, community service projects, and exciting social events with Jewish athletes and artists from around the world! Learn more here.
Want to experience major league baseball with members of the Jewish community? Come out to the ballgame on Sunday, August 27, 2017 for Federation’s third annual Jewish Community Day at Nationals Park. Join more than 1,500 community members at Grand Slam Sunday and watch the Nationals take on the Mets! Get your tickets here for the J's ticket block here: https://doinggood.wufoo.com/forms/qbdpy2e0obkhmu/ Hope to see you at the game!
When I asked my daughter what kind of a birthday party she wants this year, she was very particular. She said she wants a party where she can learn to cook, and can invite her whole soccer team, the Brownie troop, and some of her other best friends. My first thought is that there is no way I can fit all these children in my kitchen, followed by the fact that I can't cook, so I shouldn't be teaching other people how to do so, followed by the dread of having to clean my house before and after the party.
Then, I opened Centertainment and wa-la! The J offers themed birthday parties (including cooking) for a reasonable price for up to 25 kids. All we have to do is show up, order a few pizzas, and bring a cake. Seems like a no brainer to me!
Are you considering the J for your child's upcoming party? Here are some of the themes available:
-Arts and Crafts Party
Ages 5 and up
Partygoers will enjoy creating their own masterpieces at this artsy-party! Art projects are a great way for children to express themselves and discover their creativity.
Ages 5 and up
Partygoers-turned-pastry chefs will enjoy baking their own tasty treats! They’ll also get to decorate their own aprons or toques (chefs’ hats) as keepsakes to use in future culinary experiences!
Ages 5 and up
Relay races, Freeze Tag, What Time Is It Mr. Fox?, Red Light, Green Light, and more—Parachute activities, all sorts of sports; your favorite games galore!
-Gym Jam Party
Ages 3-4 years old
Doesn’t everybody love a good ‘Jam?! Party includes free play and activities such as mini basketball, soccer, scooters, tunnels, and a moon bounce! The last 15 minutes of the party includes a fun parachute activity for both parents and children.
Kids will enjoy an hour in the pool with our staff as we play games and splash around in our heated pool at any time of the year!
Give your budding ballerina a birthday to remember! Our enthusiastic, energetic dance instructors will lead a 45-minute ballet session, including a ballet class, demonstrate dances from the theme ballet, and invite party participants to dance roles of various characters using costumes and props! We will also lead a craft such as decorating pointe shoes, wands, tiaras, or another craft relating to the theme of choice! Choose from Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, or the Nutcracker for a special ballet-themed day! Boys are invited too — just let us know so we can plan accordingly!
-Hip Hop Party
Does your dancer dream of starring in their own music video? Let them get a taste of the spotlight on their special day as our professional dance instructors lead a fun Hip Hop dance party! This will include a warm-up, dance games, and the creation of a dance routine to your birthday girl or boy’s favorite song!
You can make your child’s birthday celebration one to remember at the J, while making it a stress-free event with minimal work for yourself! J parties are available on Sundays from either 11a–1p or 1p–3p. The first hour is reserved for party activities while the second hour is reserved for food/cake etc.
All parties and fees accommodate up to 15 children (with an additional fee for more children- up to 25). Fee includes:
• Party room for two hours
• Party staff (staffed accordingly)
• Paper products and generic room decorations available
Interested in learning more? Email Allison.Merims@jccnv.org or call 703.537.3097.