Thanksgiving is an American holiday. Nearly everyone celebrates it. I have fond memories of time spent with my family indulging in a glorious feast - turkey, sweet potatoes, pumpkin pie, cranberry sauce, kugel, and whatever else earned a place on the menu, and then taking a long tryptophan-induced nap afterwards. We all know that Thanksgiving is certainly American - but is it a Jewish holiday?
Setting aside the feasting and football, we discover that there is a way to bring our Judaism into our observance of Thanksgiving. Some use it as a means of teaching our children one of our most important values: thankfulness. The idea of giving thanks is a familiar theme in Jewish tradition. Judaism views every day as a day of thanksgiving; every day is a chance to say "thank you" to G-d for the many blessings we have.
Here are some things we can do with our children to teach them about thankfulness and the Jewish connection to the holiday at the Thanksgiving table:
- Talk about why we celebrate Thanksgiving. Connect your celebration to the original story of the fall harvest celebration that brought together struggling, starving Pilgrims and generous Native Americans.
- Discuss how Thanksgiving is similar to the Jewish holiday of Sukkah. The first Thanksgiving meal in 1621 is said to have been eaten outdoors, which would correspond to the Sukkot tradition of dining outside in the sukkah. Sukkot, like Thanksgiving, is a holiday of welcoming; the Pilgrims welcomed the Wampanoag Native Americans to the original Thanksgiving table just as Jews are encouraged to welcome friends and extended family to dine in the sukkah.
-Talk about family traditions and tell stories. If your celebration involves multiple generations or multiple families, talk about traditions, "the good old days," and your own childhood. Stories teach children about life and history.
-Be thankful. Focus on the things you are thankful for; ask everyone at the table to say what they are thankful for or make a list of what your family is thankful for. To take this gratitude lesson to the next level, you could perhaps even hang poster board on the wall and ask everyone to write things they are thankful for throughout the day.
Share & donate. Thanksgiving is a celebration of sharing and abundance. Develop a tradition of sharing with those who have less and involve children in contributing to a food shelter or other charities. This can help children to be thankful for what they have and learn the importance of helping others. This also embodies the Jewish tradition of tzedakah (or charitable giving.)
From our family at the J to yours, however you spend your day, we hope you have a safe, healthy and meaningful Thanksgiving with family, friends, and neighbors. We'll see you at the gym afterwards, to work off all the stuffing and pumpkin pie!
I tried everything to extend its life, but it was time to face the facts — nothing was going to bring our old red Taurus back to life. She was a good car while she lasted, but now it had been too long that she sat abandoned on the street in front of our house rusting away.
Our beloved car was too far gone and likely getting her running again just wouldn’t be worth the expense. We wouldn’t know until we had her towed to the mechanic – expense number 1 – and then waited for the diagnosis of how expensive the repair would be to get her up and running again (expenses number 2 for the estimate and 3 for the repair). We couldn’t just leave this vehicle in the street with no purpose and no one seemed interested in buying it, so my husband and I talked about the future of our car and what our options were. We love the J for the positive difference it makes in people’s lives, so it seemed natural that when we found out that we could donate our car, the J would be the perfect beneficiary.
What many people don’t realize is that in most cases, you can donate a running, or even non-running, car to charity – even if there’s little to no chance that your car will ever run again. Unless it has been stripped down to the chassis, there’s a very good chance that there will still be some value assigned to the car. And, because you’ve donated the car, you will see direct benefits as well! Not only will you rid yourself of the unwanted burden of an unusable car, but you’ll also set yourself up to receive a minimum tax deduction of $500 once it’s all said and done.
Once the J accepts your donation, the vehicle will be sold at auction, where even a car that won’t run can still have value. Buyers may be interested in purchasing the car so they can salvage parts such as doors, dashboards, or even gear knobs — and be sold as replacement parts. The J typically receives a check within two months and will then issue you an acknowledgement identifying how much the car was sold for, which may be used for tax purposes. Tax laws stipulate a donated vehicle receives minimum $500 tax-deduction – that means, if your car sells for more, you receive a deduction of the amount for which it sold; if it sells for less, you receive the minimum $500 deduction.
Thinking about donating your vehicle? Contact the J’s Development Associate, Michelle Pearlstein (email@example.com). We accept all vehicles, regardless of the condition, and you’ll have the peace of mind that comes with knowing that all of the money from the resale of your donated vehicle goes to support the J’s mission and programs. We make donating a vehicle as simple for you as possible. Just tell us about the car, who you are, and where it is located — we’ll handle the rest. Reach out to us today and find out how we can help!
Following a productive meeting at the J with my amazing co-workers in marketing, I came across a smiley face in the cultural arts office. She introduced herself as “Sharon” and I couldn’t help but notice the picture of the sweetest baby boy hanging over her desk. She was kind and pleasant to talk to, and I looked forward to learning more about her to write this article.
Sharon told me a little bit about herself. She hails from Sunnyvale, Ca, right in the heart of Silicon Valley. Seems like a perfect place for such a sunny, happy person!
Sharon attended college to be a stage manager at Southern Oregon University. Right after college, she moved to DC for an internship with Theater J. She met her husband, Jesse, while working at the J and ended up staying in the area. In 2016, she got her Masters in Management from George Mason University and gave birth to a baby boy! She now resides in Petworth, DC with Jesse, Baby Marty (Martin) and their cat, Ginny.
When asked what she loves most about working at the J, I wholeheartedly agree with her answer. She enjoys high fiving the babies as they come by for their walks! How can you not? And, her office is situated in the perfect place for this — adjacent to the lobby!
At the J, Sharon works with Sarah Berry, Cultural Art Director, to produce cultural programs. Together, they strive to bring the best in performing visual, literary, and cinematic arts programming to the J. Sharon hopes to use her background in performing arts to help bring new and exciting programming to the J.
Although she is very familiar with the Jewish community in other areas, Sharon is fairly new to the Northern Virginia Jewish community. She is happy to know that there is a vibrant and active community here that has welcomed her with open arms.
Be sure to say hi to Sharon next time you’re at the J!
October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. And, my goal this month and in general is to do what I can to stave off the terrible disease. I read recently that studies found a link between regular exercise and a lower risk of breast cancer. If this is true, Iâ€™m going to need to start exercising more often!
How exercising lowers breast cancer risk is not fully understood. Itâ€™s thought that physical activity regulates hormones including estrogen and insulin, which can fuel breast cancer growth. Regular exercise also helps women stay at a healthy weight, which also helps regulate hormones and helps keep the immune system healthier. So itâ€™s a win-win to get to the gym!
How much exercise do women need?
Unfortunately, there is not a magic number of hours that a woman can exercise to prevent cancer from occurring or to lower the risk. But we do know that some is better than none, and that more vigorous activity is more effective than less vigorous activity. The American Cancer Society recommends all adults engage in at least 150 minutes of moderate intensity or 75-minutes of vigorous intensity activity each week, preferably spread throughout the week.
So, what happens on days when you want to fit some exercise in but canâ€™t find the time to come to the J and exercise? Here are some ideas:
For people who haven't exercised in a while, it makes sense to start slowly and build up gradually. And clear any new activity with your doctor.
Hope to see you at the J in the weight room, on a treadmill, or at the new Bollywood Fit or SUP Yoga Class (which was an amazing workout- I did it last week!)
I've decided to become more physically active. In fact, today I am trying one of those free SUP Yoga classes at the J. I am making this change in my life not only because I'm overweight and enjoy more than an occasional donut. Research shows that exercising your body is also good for your brain, and I need all the help I can get, since most people on my father's side have or have had dementia.
These are some examples of physical activity that have been shown to help improve your brain health and keep your mind sharp:
Exercise can also boost your mood, help you maintain a healthy weight, and keep muscles strong. If you don't do so already, come on down to the J and take a class, hire a trainer, or simply go for a run, or a swim, or lift some weights in our gym!
Want to learn more about brain health, nutrition, technology, travel, and more for seniors? Be sure to attend the Northern Virginia Positive Aging and Wellness Fair presented by Innovation Health on Sunday, 10/22, at the Inova Center for Personalized Health Conference Center (formerly ExxonMobil, across from Inova Fairfax Hospital). The fair includes more than 30 interactive and informative workshops promoting active aging through healthy lifestyles that may help you live longer, more independently, and more positively. Bob Levey, former columnist for The Washington Post, is the keynote speaker. There will also be a trade show featuring more than 35 exhibitors, nonprofits, and government agencies offering one-on-one assistance and resources. Admission is $20 per ticket. The fair is geared for adults 50+. Visit positiveagingfair.com for more details!
Every morning, I hear the same thing from my kids: "I don't want to go to school!" They seem to think I will say, "That's fine, you can stay home," even though I won't. In reality, unless it's Rosh Hashanah or Yom Kippur that day, or they have 104 fever, they're going! Not sure what fun things they think I do while I'm working all day?
Dr. Rene Hackney, one of our awesome speakers from our upcoming Baby2Tot Fest, offers some great advice for parents of children whose kids complain about going to school every day, as follows:
Smooth, calm morning: If your kids lose it in the morning, try and stay calm. Be the rock.
Matter of fact empathy: When your child is upset, acknowledge the emotion, then continue with the routine. On a difficult morning this might sound like, "I know you are upset, you don’t want to go,” as you help put on their shoes.” “I hear you want to stay home. I like staying home with you too,” as you walk them in. You are recognizing emotions and moving forward.
Avoid starting with denial or reasoning: Denial would be, “You like school. This shouldn’t be so hard.” Reasoning is, “All of your friends are there, you’ll have fun at school.” Denial and reasoning are fuel for the argument.
Start Earlier: If it is truly difficult to get through the morning, you might also start 15 minutes earlier to give everyone a chance to relax.
Note any patterns: Most things are easier when you see them coming. Knowing the pattern can help you plan.
Speak with teacher: Whenever there’s a school related difficulty, good to check in with the teacher. The teacher may be able to point to something specific happening at school, or may let you know everything seems fine once child is there. Either way, it’s helpful information.
Speak with your child: Occasionally, ask them what’s going on in the mornings before school. Ask if there’s anything they are happy about, worried about, excited about, or scared about at school. One question here and there, in a relaxed tone ,at a calm time, may be helpful.
Address any known causes: If there are academic concerns, talk to the teacher, find new ways to practice the needed skills, and/or hire a tutor. If it’s a social concern, meet with the guidance counselor, coach your child on ways to manage, and/or follow up with the teacher. On either front, continue to monitor and follow up with interventions, as needed. Do what’s needed to support your child wherever they need it the most.
Again, these great tips are from Dr. Hackney, who will be leading one of six parenting workshops at our Baby2Tot Fest on 10/22. The event will also feature vendors, on-site demos, a play area, an ask-a-professional café, giveaways, and more. To learn more or to register for the event, click here. Hope to see you there!
Fall is my favorite season. I enjoy the crisp, colorful leaves, the hot apple cider, and just about everything made with pumpkin. The harvest festival of Sukkot (which begins tomorrow night) is another reason why I adore this season!
For those who may not know, let me tell you a little about the holiday, Sukkot. Many of you are likely aware that the main symbol of Sukkot is the sukkah, the decorated outdoor booth that provides families a wonderful opportunity to invite friends and neighbors to share a snack or come together for a meal. The Sukkah commemorates the temporary dwellings in which the Israelites lived during their desert journey to the Promised Land. Not only do we eat and gather with friends in the sukkah, some of us even sleep in it (weather permitting!) during the seven-day holiday.
What we eat on Sukkot
In the spirit of the holiday, we typically eat seasonal fruits and vegetables, along with several kinds of grains, as a reminder of the fall harvest. Another Sukkot culinary custom is to serve foods filled with rice or other grains. Kreplach, blintzes, cabbage, squash, and other vegetables are perfect examples.
For dessert, lemon-flavored treats always are welcome and refreshing, since lemons are in the same citrus family as the etrog, or citron, one of the four species used ritually during Sukkot. (The other three species are the palm, willow and myrtle.)
Hope you have a chance to build or visit a sukkah this year! We wish you and your family a fun and happy holiday!
I'll be honest with you. Yom Kippur is my least favorite Jewish holiday, because you can't eat! But, on the other hand, I understand why we fast: to slow down our biological rhythm during a day of meaningful self-searching and earnest communication with G-d. Plus, sometimes it's healthy to cleanse your body during a day of fasting!
Most people know that we fast on Yom Kippur. But, there are three customs that you may or may not know about: wearing white, wearing a tallit (religious shawl) for Kol Nidre, and avoiding leather. This is why we do these things:
Wearing white: Some say that we wear white on Yom Kippur to be like the angels. On this day, we yearn to be lighter, more clear, and transparent. Another interpretation is that we wear white on Yom Kippur because of the white garments in which we will be buried, making white a reminder of our mortality.
Avoiding leather: There is a custom on Yom Kippur of avoiding wearing anything made of leather, because leather requires the death of a living creature. For this reason, you will see some people wearing canvas shoes, or even rubber Crocs, instead of leather shoes.
Wearing tallit at night for Kol Nidre: Kol Nidre evening is one of the very few times in the Jewish year when a tallit is worn at night. Ordinarily a tallit is only worn when it is light out and we can see the fringes. One reason why we wear a tallit to Kol Nidre is that we sing the Thirteen Attributes. Another reason is that tallitot are frequently white, and when we wrap ourselves in white tallitot, we can see ourselves as being like the angels, garbed in white light (see "wearing white" above!)
If you are fasting on Yom Kippur, we hope you have a meaningful fast. May you and your loved ones be inscribed in the book of life!
Pomegranate iced tea, chocolate-covered pomegranates, pomegranate margaritas. . . Pomegranates are in a lot of the foods we eat and are delicious by themselves. But, why do we hear so much about pomegranates at Rosh Hashanah and what makes them special?
The pomegranate has been growing in the Mediterranean region for thousands of years, and has become a symbol of Judaism, Israel, and Rosh Hashanah. In fact, in Israel and in many American homes, the pomegranate is the centerpiece on the Rosh Hashanah table. But why?
The pomegranate (רימון, rimon) is written about in the Bible. It is one of the seven species identified with the land of Israel, and it is also mentioned as a symbol of royalty.
The seeds of the pomegranate are also unique and special. In fact, according to the Midrash, every pomegranate contains 613 seeds – the same as the number of mitzvot (commandments) in the Torah. So, eating a pomegranate can be a symbolic way of displaying the desire to fulfill the mitzvot.
Hope you enjoy the pomegranates, apples and honey, and round challah at your Rosh Hashanah dinner! We at the J wish you and your loved ones L'Shana Tovah (Happy New Year!)
Pictured: Author's son, Max, with his best friend, the late Flaubert (2004)
My best friend is one of the most amazing people I know. It is so remarkable when two people from completely different places, with completely different backgrounds, can be so alike. When I am sad, I talk to her, and she brightens my day. She knows what makes me unique, and she appreciates it, and I know she has my back no matter what. Honestly, I don’t know where I’d be without my best friend.
The amazing thing about best friendship is that it can start any time in your life. You can meet your “bestie” as a tot, by being in the same playgroup and growing up together. You can meet him or her as a teenager, when there are so many changes going on, or in college, when you have your first taste of independence. Or, you can encounter this person (or people. . . or pets. . . you can have more than one best friend!) when you are a little older, like I did.
In the Jewish context, friendship is more than a social connection. Friends offer each other help, loyalty, protection, support, unselfish love, and moral guidance. Judaism defines friendship as one of the primary relationships in life, a tie at times exceeding that which bonds blood relatives.
The benefits of friendship are appreciated and expressed in the bible, as follows: Ecclesiastes wrote, “Two are better than one because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow; but woe to him that is alone when he falls, for he has not another to help him up” (4:9-10).
Do you have a tot or a child who already has a best friend? Well, we have a perfect opportunity to share adorable pics of their friendship and for you to have a chance to win a $25 Target gift card when you attend the Baby2Tot Fest at the J on October 22. Have a little cutie who loves their buddy? Then join our #BabyBFFs contest! Rules below:
1. Must be following [the J's Instagram account] @jccnv
2. Post a pic of your kid & his or her BFF (pets included!) with the hashtags #B2TFest and #BabyBFFs (not case sensitive)
3. Post once, post twice, post as many times as you’d like! No limits to how many pics you can post. See your baby or tot featured on our page (if you don't want your pic reposted here, simply tell us in your caption/ comments).
4. Find out if you're the lucky winner at the Baby2Tot Fest on Sunday, October 22! Winner is selected at random. (Note: You must attend the Baby2Tot Fest, but need not be present when the winner is announced in the afternoon. To register for Baby2Tot Fest, click here (note: each person must be registered individually).
Best friends can be hard to find.
Give your best friend a hug, and let him or her know you love and appreciate them. Can’t wait to see your pics!
Pictured: Apple Nachos
Rosh Hashanah (Jewish New Year) is among my favorite holidays. And, I'll be honest with you, it's because I have a sweet tooth and I love the food that we eat, and the symbolism behind it! On Rosh Hashanah, we eat both sweet and rich foods, symbolizing happiness and prosperity, such as round challah bread (instead of the typical braided one) to celebrate continuity and the circle of life, and pomegranate seeds to represent an abundance of good deeds to come.
Of all the classic holiday foods associated with Rosh Hashanah, none are as universal as honey and apples, which remind us of the Garden of Eden and the anniversary of the creation of Adam and Eve.
Each year, kids love to dip their own apple wedges in a bowl of gooey honey. This year, it's time for the grown-ups to get a little more creative with apples and honey, as follows:
Pink Pearl Tart: A delicious and gorgeous way to enjoy apples and honey.
Apple Nachos: This recipe doesn't technically call for honey, but it should. So feel free to add it!
Apple and honey madeleines: These madeleines are delicious dipped in coffee or tea.
Grilled Apples with Cheese and Honey: Dessert meets the cheese plate when you drizzle grilled apples and flavorful cheese with honey and toasted pecans for a quick and healthy appetizer.
Fontina, Walnut, Apple and Honey Grilled Cheese: It's super easy to make and incredibly delicious. You could pair it with a salad to serve as a complete lunch but it was divine with a cup of coffee
Chicken and Apples in Honey Mustard Sauce: Simple and quick chicken breast with apples cooked in broth, with a honey mustard sauce.
Apple, Pear and Gin Cocktail: Raise a glass to the new year with this delicious cocktail!
Want to pick some apples just in time for Rosh Hashanah, that can be used to make some of these delicious recipes? Come to our Community Apple Picking on Sunday, September 17, from 1pm - 3pm at Stribling Orchard. Get ready for school and Rosh Hashanah with an afternoon of picking delicious apples to go with your honey! Bring a picnic and enjoy breathtaking views of the Blue Ridge Mountains while learning about the Jewish New Year. Enjoy PJ Library® stories and making fun apple crafts, then go out and pick apples at this 8th generation orchard. Do a mitzvah (good deed) and donate a portion of your picked apples to Food for Others, a local food pantry in Fairfax. Remember to bring a hat, sunscreen, and a snack. Please register by September 13. Program and entrance to orchard free. You pay for your own apples. Contact Jennifer.DeAngelis@jccnv.org for more details.
Shahana Lal is the newest addition to the marketing and development team at the J. The amazing part about her being part of the marketing team is that I get to work with her! I had the chance to interview her yesterday, and I learned a lot that I will share with you. When you make it to the J, be sure to say hello to Shahana! She is truly a friendly, smart, and creative person, with a fascinating background! Below are the answers to the interview questions that she provided:
Renee: Tell us a little bit about yourself (where you're from, your hobbies, your education, your hopes and dreams (jk :)
Shahana: Hi! I'm from Bethesda, but was born and grew up in India before moving to the US as a teen. I studied Sociology at the University of Maryland due to my passion for and interest in social justice and women's empowerment. In my free time, I love to sketch and draw illustrations, go on nature hikes, binge watch Game of Thrones and anything on Netflix, feed my caffeine addiction, and check off as many countries as I can from my travel bucket list!
Renee: What do you like most about working at the J?
Shahana: While it's tough to pick just one thing, one of the first things I noticed about the J is how it feels like one big family. There are so many people who go way back, sharing so many memories and friendships at the J, and everyone is so inclusive and welcoming. I love walking into the building and seeing groups of friends at all age levels-- preschool children giggling together, young campers sharing jokes over lunch, camp counselors high-fiving their campers, young parents picking their kids up after their fitness class, friends playing cards in the lobby and adult lounge. So I guess ONE of the things I like most is the people!
Renee: What do you do in your position at the J?
Shahana: As the Marketing and Development Coordinator, I support the J with its fundraising goals, highlight the J's vast range of programming and services that have something for everyone from infants to octogenarians, help articulate their importance to the community, support the Capital Campaign to improve the J experience for our members and guests, and give everyone a window into the J through our Instagram - don't forget to give us a follow @jccnv!
Renee: Why would someone want to be a member at the J?
Shahana: To be in a supportive and motivating environment where one feels encouraged to accomplish their fitness goals, have opportunities to strengthen one's mental wellness, expand one's cultural and artistic tastes, get educated by instructors who foster independence, find ways to serve the community, make lasting friendships, and most of all, have fun! Need I say more?
Renee: What have you learned so far in your position?
Shahana: A lot! I've taken many great notes from my wonderful bosses, but one of my biggest takeaways so far is how to work hard and have a lot of fun at the same time, which isn't so hard when you love what you do!
Renee: What do you aspire to do at the J?
Shahana: Help the J's vision for nurturing a sense of community by finding more ways to give back, educate, and respond to instances of injustice or inequality. As someone who's been passionate for social change for as long as I can remember, I seek out sources of inspiration and hope, and the J is definitely a place of inspiration! Since it first opened its doors, the J has been a symbol for progress and fostered a sense of culture, diversity and inclusion. I feel lucky to be a part of this community, and look forward to continuing this legacy with my colleagues and fellow members.
Thanks so much, Shahana! J And, as I responded back to her in a text, "You rock!"
P.S. As Shahana mentioned, she updates our Instagram regularly. To reiterate what she said, please give us a follow at @jccnv. She posts some fun and creative pics, contests, etc.
I'll be honest with you- I haven't ridden my bike in a long time. I have thought about it though, especially with my daughter enjoying her bike so much these days. Similar to me, most of us that don't ride bikes have found plenty of reasons NOT to go riding, so let's take on those fears one by one.
Fear #1: Biking requires too much gear.
Reality: The basic necessities for cycling are just you, a bike, and a helmet. While other gear is nice to have, it can come later. Just get on a bike and go.
Fear #2: It's costly to buy a bike and cycling gear.
Reality: Maybe, but it's far cheaper than buying and operating a car. Per a 2013 AAA study, a car costs an average of $9,122 per year to operate (based on 15,000 miles). Bikes, on the other hand, don't need gas and are free to park. They have fewer components and require less-expensive maintenance.
Fear #3: Only expensive bikes are any good.
Reality: While pricey bikes can be "nicer" to ride, almost any bike in good working condition can get you to where you want to go. It may take you longer or not have gears for up-hills, but you will get there.
Fear #4: Biking takes too much time.
Reality: It usually requires extra planning and riding time, but, depending on the distance and traffic, it might actually take less time to bike than it does to drive. Plus, you burn calories and can run errands while you ride.
Fear #5: Bicycling is too dangerous.
Reality: Most cyclists ride for many years without mishap. Acting like a driver, being predictable, wearing bright clothing, being aware of your surroundings, anticipating driver behavior, making eye contact with drivers, having hands ready on brakes, watching for car doors opening, following traffic rules and claiming your lane will help improve your safety.
Fear #6: Bike seats are uncomfortable.
Reality: Bikes usually come with a generic, unisex saddle. If yours feels uncomfortable, try upgrading to one with gel padding or one that's gender specific. Bike seats also come in different sizes and shapes, such as cutaway models.
Fear #7: I'm too out of shape to ride.
Reality: Riding your bike will help you get back into shape. In the beginning, don't be afraid to stop and walk, especially on a hill. The more you bike, the easier it will get. Of course, if you have a serious health condition, check with your doctor before riding.
As you can see, there are lots of great reasons to dust off your bike (or even ride for the very first time). In fact, if you want to try cycling, a good place to start are our cardio cycling classes at the J! See our group exercise class schedule for details on classes.
If you are an intermediate or advanced rider, please join us for Cycle Fest this year on September 24. Enjoy a Sunday morning ride in beautiful Warrenton, departing to and from Molon Lave Vineyards. Riders, friends, and family are invited to come and enjoy the day. This event benefits Semper K9, a local, veteran-run nonprofit that trains rescued and donated dogs to assist injured members of the U.S. Armed Forces. Semper K9 provides service dogs for psychiatric alert and mobility challenges free of charge to wounded service members. Learn more here. Hope to see you there!
Since 2006, we have been fortunate to host seven creative and passionate shlichim, who connected Israel to our community by spearheading programs, leading meaningful discussions, and engaging with local synagogues.
This year, we are thrilled to welcome Liat Lisha, who will continue the important work of our shlichim by working at the J, with area synagogues, Jewish agencies/organizations, and at other locations throughout Northern Virginia.
Here’s a brief bio so you can get to know her better:
Liat was born and raised in Ashdod, Israel to a family of Moroccan descent. Prior to becoming a shlicha, she worked in Tel Aviv, as a Web Fraud Content Analyst for IBM, and also worked for the non-profit SheCodes, a group that aims to bring gender equality to the Israeli hi-tech industry. Liat served as an Intelligence Analyst in the IDF for three years, and was the head of an intelligence team of 12 soldiers.
As a teen, Liat was chosen by the Israeli Ministry of Education to take part in a summer program called Seeds of Peace, where she brought together Israeli, Palestinian, American, Egyptian, and Jordanian teens to have an open dialogue about tolerance and acceptance. She continues to work with this group as a project manager.
Liat loves to be physically active, and enjoys meeting with people to discuss Israeli politics, social issues, tech, the Israeli economy, and fashion. In her free time, she enjoys cooking and trying new recipes, music, and basketball.
You can learn more about Liat and our JCCNV-JAFI Shiri Rahamim Shlichut Program here.
I don’t play a sport, and sadly I am far from being a teenager. But, if I did and if I was, I would certainly want to participate in the JCC Maccabi Games®! Last night (Sunday, August 6) at the Times Union Center in Albany, NY, hundreds of Jewish athletes, coaches, and fans from around the world gathered for the opening ceremonies of the 2017 JCC Maccabi Games® and Artsfest, an Olympic style sporting competition held for Jewish athletes that are between the age of 13 and 16.
This year, there are 21 delegations from around the world competing in sporting events ranging from basketball and hockey to swimming and golf. The athletes will be competing in venues around Albany, starting last night and ending on August 11.
Around 2,600 Jewish teens participate in the JCC Maccabi Games every summer, including our local athletes from the Northern Virginia Delegation, including 16 athletes, 3 coaches, and 1 delegation head (Allison Merims). Our delegation is specifically comprised of:
The JCC Maccabi ArtsFest® is also happening concurrently. Specialties include musical theater, acting/improv, vocal music, rock band, star reporters (Journalism/TV), visual arts, jazz ensemble/world music, and dance.
This year’s NoVA Delegation is the largest that NoVA has sent in many years, and we wish them lots of luck in their respective sports. We will continue to provide updates about the NoVA Delegation on our Facebook page! Please also check out the Maccabi games page on our website to learn more and see how you or your teenager can get involved in future games!
*denotes age of players on team
I love my husband, kids, pets, good friends, and my job at the J! Next week, I can express all this love during Tu B’Av, the ancient day of love, which starts Sunday night (8/6) and goes through Monday (8/7).
Did you know that, in ancient times, Tu B’Av started as a singles mixer, of sorts? According to the Talmud, Jewish women would go dancing in the vineyards and unmarried men would go to the fields to pick out a wife. The women would wear white dresses that they had borrowed, so that no one would be embarrassed if she didn’t own the proper garments.
Today, the day is celebrated in Israel, much like Valentine’s Day in the United States, with flowers, romantic dinner dates and evening soirées. It is considered to be a good date for a wedding. Lovers taking an evening stroll outside can enjoy nature’s mood lighting, since the holiday often falls on an evening with a full moon.
If you are in the U.S., whether Tu B’Av is a time for a romantic date, to hang out with friends, or catch up on cat videos, the holiday is a good excuse to connect with the world around you. Here are seven clever ways to celebrate the holiday.
However you spend Tu B’Av, we wish you lots of love and good times with the ones you love!
Photo: Joc Pederson, Credit: JTA
Anyone who knows me knows that I am a die-hard baseball fan. Thirteen years ago, when I heard the news that we were getting a baseball team, I nearly flipped out from happiness and excitement. Since then, I haven’t missed a Washington Nationals game (I’ve mostly watched them on tv, but have also seen some great games at Nats Park!)
I remember wondering if Ryan Zimmerman and Max Scherzer were members of the tribe. Turns out that they are not, but 11 other players and a manager are. Below is the list of some of the Jewish major leaguers. Click on the player’s name below for details about him and his stats:
Speaking of baseball, did you know that the J has a baseball team that is going to the JCC Maccabi Games® as part of the Northern Virginia delegation? At the Maccabi Games, for five days, teen athletes/artists participate in tournaments, community service projects, and exciting social events with Jewish athletes and artists from around the world! Learn more here.
Want to experience major league baseball with members of the Jewish community? Come out to the ballgame on Sunday, August 27, 2017 for Federation’s third annual Jewish Community Day at Nationals Park. Join more than 1,500 community members at Grand Slam Sunday and watch the Nationals take on the Mets! Get your tickets here for the J's ticket block here: https://doinggood.wufoo.com/forms/qbdpy2e0obkhmu/ Hope to see you at the game!
When I asked my daughter what kind of a birthday party she wants this year, she was very particular. She said she wants a party where she can learn to cook, and can invite her whole soccer team, the Brownie troop, and some of her other best friends. My first thought is that there is no way I can fit all these children in my kitchen, followed by the fact that I can't cook, so I shouldn't be teaching other people how to do so, followed by the dread of having to clean my house before and after the party.
Then, I opened Centertainment and wa-la! The J offers themed birthday parties (including cooking) for a reasonable price for up to 25 kids. All we have to do is show up, order a few pizzas, and bring a cake. Seems like a no brainer to me!
Are you considering the J for your child's upcoming party? Here are some of the themes available:
-Arts and Crafts Party
Ages 5 and up
Partygoers will enjoy creating their own masterpieces at this artsy-party! Art projects are a great way for children to express themselves and discover their creativity.
Ages 5 and up
Partygoers-turned-pastry chefs will enjoy baking their own tasty treats! They’ll also get to decorate their own aprons or toques (chefs’ hats) as keepsakes to use in future culinary experiences!
Ages 5 and up
Relay races, Freeze Tag, What Time Is It Mr. Fox?, Red Light, Green Light, and more—Parachute activities, all sorts of sports; your favorite games galore!
-Gym Jam Party
Ages 3-4 years old
Doesn’t everybody love a good ‘Jam?! Party includes free play and activities such as mini basketball, soccer, scooters, tunnels, and a moon bounce! The last 15 minutes of the party includes a fun parachute activity for both parents and children.
Kids will enjoy an hour in the pool with our staff as we play games and splash around in our heated pool at any time of the year!
Give your budding ballerina a birthday to remember! Our enthusiastic, energetic dance instructors will lead a 45-minute ballet session, including a ballet class, demonstrate dances from the theme ballet, and invite party participants to dance roles of various characters using costumes and props! We will also lead a craft such as decorating pointe shoes, wands, tiaras, or another craft relating to the theme of choice! Choose from Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, or the Nutcracker for a special ballet-themed day! Boys are invited too — just let us know so we can plan accordingly!
-Hip Hop Party
Does your dancer dream of starring in their own music video? Let them get a taste of the spotlight on their special day as our professional dance instructors lead a fun Hip Hop dance party! This will include a warm-up, dance games, and the creation of a dance routine to your birthday girl or boy’s favorite song!
You can make your child’s birthday celebration one to remember at the J, while making it a stress-free event with minimal work for yourself! J parties are available on Sundays from either 11a–1p or 1p–3p. The first hour is reserved for party activities while the second hour is reserved for food/cake etc.
All parties and fees accommodate up to 15 children (with an additional fee for more children- up to 25). Fee includes:
• Party room for two hours
• Party staff (staffed accordingly)
• Paper products and generic room decorations available
Interested in learning more? Email Allison.Merims@jccnv.org or call 703.537.3097.
As the school year came to a close, I was especially happy about one thing: not having to pack lunch for my kids for a while! It was always a challenge trying to figure out what to pack-- particularly what they would eat as opposed to what would end up in the trash, or what would come home with one bite missing and the rest intact.
When I signed my kids up for camp, I remembered that the lunch dilemma was far from over. I am still tasked with coming up with a variety of enticing and delicious well-balanced lunches for my kids. Here's a list of some protein-rich favorites (and how much protein is contained in each) to ensure your kids get a well-balanced and nutritious meal that fills them with energy and keeps them smiling all day long:
(1) Greek yogurt (1 cup = 17 grams) Greek yogurt, also called strained yogurt, is a very thick type of yogurt. It tastes delicious, has a creamy texture, and is rich in many nutrients. Non-fat greek yogurt has protein at 48% of calories. One 170 gram (6 ounce) container has 17 grams of protein, with only 100 calories. Try to choose one without added sugar. Full-fat Greek yogurt is also very high in protein, but contains more calories.
(2) Hard-boiled eggs (1 Egg = 6 grams) Eggs are loaded with vitamins, minerals, healthy fats, eye-protecting antioxidants and brain nutrients that most people don’t get enough of. Whole eggs are high in protein, but egg whites are almost pure protein.
(3) Broccoli (1 cup = 5 grams) Broccoli is an incredibly healthy vegetable, loaded with vitamin C, vitamin K, fiber and potassium. Broccoli also contains various bioactive nutrients believed to help protect against cancer. Calorie for calorie, it is high in protein compared to most vegetables.
(4) Avocado (1 med. avocado = 3 grams) Fresh avocados can be a creamy and delicious addition to a sandwich or they can be enjoyed as a lunchtime snack. They can be a great substitute for foods that are high in saturated fats, and are also the main ingredient in guacamole (yum!)
(5) Tuna fish (1 cup = 39 grams) Tuna is low in both fat and calories, so what's left is mostly just protein. Like other fish, tuna is also very high in various nutrients and contains a decent amount of omega-3 fatty acids.
According to the USDA MyPlate program and the Dietary Guidelines for Americans, protein should be incorporated into a healthy diet. Hope your child is enjoying camp and the healthy protein-packed lunches you are packing!
Did you know?. . . If your child is not going to camp at this time, you can still sign him or her up for camp at the J! Our 2017 J Camp registration is now open!
Camp runs from July 3-August 18, from 9am-4pm. We offer swim lessons - field trips - special guests - and more!
Today we live busy lives; however, most of our jobs don't require much physical activity. The only running we sometimes do is to the next appointment or meeting. And if you are anything like me, when you're finally home and can take a breath, you play games, watch TV, or read. Over time, this physical inactivity can take a toll on us both physically and emotionally.
So, what can you do as a fill-in if you can’t make it to the J to work out? Check us out on YouTube. These are some of the videos you will find on our channel to help you target certain areas of your body:
If you feel like you don’t have time for exercise, it’s important to make time! Regular physical activity can reduce your chance of diabetes, heart disease, osteoporosis, and some forms of cancer. As you age, being more active can make it easier to get around, and even decrease the chance of falling. It's also a big factor in maintaining a healthy body weight. Being active can make us feel better, and help us manage depression and anxiety.
What are your reasons to become more active? How will regular exercise benefit you? Come to the J and use our gym, take our classes, and hire one of our personal trainers. You will be glad you did. I hope to see you at the J soon! Until then, I hope these and other exercises will be helpful when you can’t make it to the gym!
When you think of a development professional, what comes to mind? The first thing some would say is raising money to support an organization. Other would think of the compelling opportunities that person creates for donors, while others recognize how the development person makes the experience of giving satisfying and rewarding. When you think of Michelle Pearlstein, the J’s Development Associate, all of these things come to mind.
Local to our area, Michelle has been with the J for seven years. What makes her unique is that she had no big dreams of raising money. She just wanted to help people in our community have access to the programs they enjoy, and knows that raising money and awareness are both essential to do so.
Michelle moved to Northern Virginia when she was 6 year old. She started that same summer at the J’s Camp Achva. For middle school and high school, she attended Lake Braddock and later went on to study history and religion at Miami University in Southwest Ohio.
After college, Michelle spent a year in Israel on a gap year program, and worked for the American Jewish Committee organizing programs for interfaith families in Jewish life. It was her dream job (in her dream location), but he realized it was not sustainable when she had kids.
She returned to Northern Virginia, and worked part time teaching high school students and as the Israeli specialist at Olam Tikvah Hebrew School. She then assumed the role as a part-time staff member at the J in Community Engagement, supporting the Growing Jewish Families and PJ Library programs. After a year, she moved to the development position she is in today. Michelle has a husband named Dave, and two children, Jacob (16) and Sarah (14), who both went through Camp Achva!
As someone who has always worked at non-profits, Michelle believes she does her best work when she works for an organization that she cares about. She says that the people who come to the J make it fulfilling for her; as do the people she works with. At the J, we are all truly one big family. In fact, more than 40 staff members at the J have already contributed more than $105,700 to support facility improvements and programmatic development through the Our J. Our Community. Our Future. Capital Campaign.
Michelle, along with all the staff at the J, know that more comfortable and inspiring space will enhance programs in our building, and new programming will help even more people feel connected to the Jewish community! Check out some of the amazing updates so far, here.
We hope you will come enjoy everything the J has to offer, and consider donating! Every gift makes a difference as we work towards our goal!
At a Friday night Shabbat dinner, the blessing over the challah is typically done. Sometimes, I look at the bread and wonder, “(w)hy can’t we be doing this prayer over pumpernickel, cinnamon raisin bread, a New York bagel, or even a loaf of Wonder bread?” Why does it have to be challah? I also wonder if there will be any left for French toast the next morning!
Is it the delicious aroma and scrumptious sweet taste of the freshly baked special Jewish bread that makes it the first choice at our Friday night dinners? Not exactly! Challah is eaten rather than any other bread, because Challah is both sweeter and richer, being made with egg as well as wheat. A sweeter, tastier “rich man’s food” is a more fitting a symbol of the Manna which G-d provided.
Challah is also a braided bread, and the braids have meaning. We braid each one with three strands, together; the two Challah’s it's customary to eat have six strands total. This signifies the six days of the week preceding the Shabbat. When we braid the Challah, we signify bringing those six days together creating unity and harmony in our lives by celebrating Shabbat.
The braiding of the challah may also symbolize:
According to My Jewish Learning, “(c)hallah, however you bake it, continues to play a central, delicious role in the rhythm of Jewish life. Through migration, diaspora, and agriculture, it became something just as diverse as the people who bake it every Friday.”
Here are some recipes for different types of challah that you and your family can make:
Hope you are able to spend many Shabbat meals with your loved ones enjoying challah, however you like to make it!
Apps can be fun, educational, and can even save you money (i.e. Cartwheel!) They keep kids busy for hours on long trips, and can even teach them new things.
Every now and then, an app comes along that actually offers users the opportunity for spiritual reflection. The following apps, designed for people who are interested in Judaism, can make learning about Jewish holidays and other Jewish stuff fun for families:
Hope you and your families enjoy these fun apps. Hope the see you soon at the J!
I didn’t know it was Jewish American Heritage Month this month. Did you? They don’t publicize it a lot, but it’s true. . . we have our very own month! And there are lots of reasons to celebrate!
By Congressional resolution and Presidential proclamation, MAY is Jewish American Heritage Month (JAHM). JAHM is a national month of recognition of the more than 360-year history of Jewish contributions to American culture. JAHM acknowledges the achievements of American Jews in fields ranging from sports and arts and entertainment to medicine, business, science, government, and military service. This year, the theme is American Jews in Medical Research.
The groundbreaking medical research conducted by these dedicated individuals, among countless others, continues to improve and save lives. The JAHM Website features stories of Jewish Americans that were selected for their contributions to and impact on the American public. Learn more here.
Hope you enjoy the rest of JAHM and that you are your family have a Happy Shavuot (a holiday that begins tonight and goes through tomorrow that commemorates the giving of the Torah)
Next week we celebrate the Jewish holiday of Shavuot and it involves one of my favorite things — eating cheesecake!
Shavuot is a Jewish holiday that celebrates the giving of the Torah on Mt. Sinai. The two day long holiday, which begins on May 30 this year, marks the end of the seven week Counting of the Omer– the time period between Passover and the day God delivering the Torah to Moses and the Israelites on Mt. Sinai.
So, what's with the cheesecake? Actually, there could be a number of reasons for the association of dairy with Shavuot. One reason is that some believe that because the Israelites had not yet received the kosher laws, they had prepared foods on the first Shavuot that did not follow kashrut. When they received the Torah, they read the new laws of kashrut and realized their meat dishes were not kosher, in accordance with God’s will– so they opted to eat dairy dishes only. Another reason, as explained in Tribe Magazine, is that the Hebrew word chalav (milk) has a numerical value of 40, which corresponds with the number of days Moses spent on Mount Sinai receiving the Torah. Still others say that Shavuot occurs during the fertile spring period, when animal mothers produce lots of fresh milk.
In Israel, Shavuot is celebrated with fun water fights, lots of dairy dishes and desserts, and farmers from different parts of the country taking turns bringing their fruit and vegetable samples to Jerusalem – to the president.
However you celebrate, we hope you and your family have a happy Shavuot (with lots of cheesecake, if you desire it!)
Israel is 69 years young, and you would be amazed what the small, but mighty, country has accomplished during this time. In honor of Israel’s Independence Day, let’s look at some of the amazing technology that was invented there! These were excerpted from the Times of Israel, where there are 64 other reasons to celebrate Israel this year:
Do you love Israel as much as I do? If so, I hope to see you at Israel Fest this Sunday at the J! Highlights are as follows: Climb Masada on the Rock Wall • Hands-on activities & exhibits • Food for purchase • PJ Library Activities • Go Gaga for the Gaga Pit • Moonbounces • Green Screen • Israeli Dancing with Markid Mike • DrummingWorkshops • Giant Size Games in Gan Sacer Park • Sidewalk Chalk Art & Murals • Israel-style shuk (market) • Face painting • Kotel • Balloon twisting • cotton candy • Meet Canaan Dogs • and MORE! Find out more here!
If you come to our gym and ask some of the people why they work out, you would hear reasons including, “I want to lose weight,” “I have an (event) coming up and want to fit into my (dress or suit),” or “I can’t be seen in a swimsuit like this!” What many people don’t realize is that exercise has emotional benefits, as well.
Whether you are running, doing yoga, or lifting weights, moving your body on a regular basis can help you feel great in more ways than one. Some of the emotional health benefits of exercise include:
Exercising should be fun and tailored to who you are! Take a weight training class with your friends. Listen to your favorite music and run on the treadmill at the J. Swim a few laps at our pool with your kids. Choose something that gets your heart pumping and that you enjoy doing to make it easier to be consistent.
Mother's Day Gift Idea from the J's Health & Fitness Dept.
Moms are the heart, soul, and cornerstone of a family. Show yours how much she means to you by giving her the gift of health!
Special Mother’s Day Personal Training Gift Certificates are available from May 8 to May 14th. A 10% discount is being offered on new client starter packages. Treat Mom (or yourself) to a special personalized workout. Email Elin.Kanchev@jccnv.org to purchase your gift certificate! Learn more about our wellness offerings, including classes, workout facility, and trainers here. Hope to see you at the J!
You need to be a special person to be a membership director. Not only does someone in this role bring in new members; he or she has to keep current ones coming back and make sure customer service and customer satisfaction are of the highest quality. The membership director is also tasked with generating excitement and interest in the J and in the community.
At the J, we have a special, talented person who is pretty new in this role at our center. Her name is Shae Agee, and she previously served in a similar position at the YWCA in Washington, DC and at the Trinity Center for Women in DC.
Shae was born in Georgia, but as an Army brat, she lived mostly in the DC area and in NJ, near the shore. She has been an athlete her entire life; playing soccer, softball, tennis and basketball, and has been in the health and fitness industry for 20 years and loves it! She is also a singer and sings for a professional group in DC, and is married with a 3-year-old son, who is the light of her life!
Shae feels like the J is special, mostly because of the members and her co-workers. She sees the J as a “place for unity in a time of turmoil in our country.” In Shae’s experience wellness is something that is very personal for each member. It can be losing weight, delving into cultural arts, gardening, swimming… She says, “Once you find what works, stick with it!”
So, if you see Shae around at the J, be sure to say “hello.” Also, please join us and tell your friends that we are having a “Spring Fling: It’s a J Thing” May Open House on May 7 from noon- 4pm. There will be membership specials, activities, etc. Hope you can join us. Learn more here: http://bit.ly/2oMkDkq
Please email me at if you know of a staff member or J member who you think should be featured. Thank you for reading!
Israel was established 69 years ago, in 1948. Since I can't be there to commemorate this glorious day in history, I will explain how they do it in Israel (and have an Israeli dessert to celebrate!)
In recognition of the establishment of Israel, two holidays were added to the Israeli calendar: Yom Hazikaron (Memorial Day) and Yom Haatzmaut (Independence Day). In Israel, these holidays are observed as national holidays- one as a somber day of remembrance and the other as a day of celebration.
The Israeli Knesset established Yom Hazikaron as a Memorial Day for soldiers who lost their lives fighting in the War of Independence and in other subsequent battles. In observance, national memorial services are held in the presence of Israel's top leadership and military personnel and many religious Jews say prayers for the souls of the fallen soldiers at this time. Yom Hazikaron in Israel will begin this year on the evening of Sunday, April 30 and ends on the evening of Monday, May 1.
Yom Haatzmaut, or Israeli Independence Day, marks the establishment of the modern state of Israel in 1948. In Israel, many people hold parties or sing and dance in the streets to celebrate and fireworks are set off. It is also common to display the Israeli flag prominently on homes and cars. Many religious people may read the Torah, pray, or blow the shofar (an instrument made from a ram's horn). Yom Ha'atzmaut 2017 will begin on the evening of Monday, May 1 and ends on the evening of Tuesday, May 2.
Why These Holidays are Linked
The message of linking these two days is clear: Israelis owe their independence -the very existence of the state - to the soldiers who sacrificed their lives for it.
Celebrate Israel's Independence Day at the J
Scott Brown, Executive Director, Jeff Dannick, Anton Marks, Gloria Graham, Ella Tessler, and more. Also, coming up later on May 21 is the Israel Fest: Israel @69. Hope to see you at these events!
Passover starts tonight, which means tonight we have our first seder. The Passover seder (a word that means order or arrangement in Hebrew) is a Jewish ritual feast that marks the beginning of the Jewish holiday of Passover. During the seder and throughout the holiday of Passover, we commemorate the liberation of the Jewish people by G-d from slavery in Egypt and their freedom as a nation under the leadership of Moses.
At the head of the table at the seder is the beautiful seder plate. Before the Seder we arrange the seder plate by placing three whole matzot (unleavened bread) in a cover or special compartment under the plate. Then we arrange six items on top, each one reminding us of the Passover Story:
Zeroah: A Roasted Bone
This reminds us of the Pesach offering we used to bring in the Holy Temple in Jerusalem.
Beitzah: A hard-boiled Egg
This reminds us of the festival offering which was brought to the Holy Temple on Pesach.
Maror: Horseradish Root
These bitter herbs symbolize the harsh suffering and bitter times we endured when we were slaves in Egypt.
Charoset: A mixture of chopped apple, walnuts and red wine. Ground up together, Charoset resembles bricks and mortar, reminding us how hard we were forced to work when we were slaves in Egypt.
Karpas: This can be a small slice of onion, boiled potato or sprigs of parsley. We dip the Karpas into salt water at the beginning of the Seder, representing the salty tears we cried when we were slaves.
Chazeret: Romaine Lettuce
This is the second portion of bitter herbs which we eat during the Seder. This is eaten in a Matzah sandwich together with Maror.
Some people are including the following new additions to their seder plates:
Many families and congregations have begun adding an orange to the Seder plate as a way of acknowledging the role of people who feel marginalized within the Jewish community.
With this new custom, we recognize that women have always been – and continue to be – integral to the continued survival of the Jewish community.
In 1991, Israel launched Operation Solomon, a covert plan to bring Ethiopian Jews to the Holy Land. When these famished, Jews arrived in Israel, many were so hungry and ill that they were unable to digest substantial food. Israeli doctors fed these new immigrants simple boiled potatoes and rice until their systems could take more food. To commemorate this at your seder, eat small red potatoes alongside the karpas (parsley).
Fair Trade Chocolate or Cocoa Beans
These can be included on the seder plate to remind us that although we escaped from slavery in Egypt, forced labor is still very much an issue today.
No matter what you have on your seder plate, for those who celebrate, we hope you have a Happy Passover!